"Dear NR Forumers..."
All right... I'm in a bit of a conundrum right now. Here's my sitiation- About a week and a half ago, I recieved a phone call from Jay Leno (no, I'm not kidding; I still haven't completely worn from the shock yet) inviting me to give him a call if I'm ever in Los Angeles. Now, for those of you who don't know me, this is pretty much the only thing I've ever wanted. So I decided to try to save up some dough so I could go out there for the week of my birthday in November. So far, this is the coolest thing that could ever happen to a person. This is where it all goes sour- I've been playing in a band on and off for the past ten years or so. The lead singer of my band is a great guy that I've known since middle school and has helped me through some pretty tough experiences- however, he wasn't at all excited for me after I told him about the phone call and only really cared if I mentioned the band to Jay or not. Then, last night at practice the kid tore into me and guilt-tripped me by saying I didn't want the band to succeed because I didn't plan on bringing the band with me when I went out there, and because I barely mentioned it to Jay during any of my previous encounters with him. If I do bring it up while I'm out there though, it's going to make me look like a jerk who only wants to promote the band; or worse; that my entire hero-worship (for lack of a better term) of Jay Leno for the past ten years has merely been a hoax to get a celebrity to listen to us. I don't want to disappoint anybody but it looks like if I take this trip, someone is going to end up getting pissed at me no matter what I do. What would y'all do if put in this situation? :?:

I personally don't think you owed your friend or your band anything unless the matter came up. If the crux of the discussion was Jay calling a fan to say hello and give an informal invite for a meet and greet that's fine. Then if you do get to spend time with Jay mentioning your band would be appropriate. Just coming out and saying you have a band to someone like Jay Leno on a first discussion might discourage him from wanting to meet you altogether. Celebrities get innundated with people who they think are harmless fans who have another secret agenda. They have to be cautious.People are great for finding celebs and bringing their kid over their house to try to get them to sing or tapdance on their porch! I think you did the right thing and your friend owes you an apology IMO. He should have been happy that you finally got to talk to your hero.

well, he's obviously jealous, I don't blame him, but it doesn't have to stop you from following your dreams, hehe, if he's a real friend he will understand.